The 'Do Not’ List: Common Dating Blunders and How to Avoid Them

Last updated
September 5, 2023
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The 'Do Not’ List: Common Dating Blunders and How to Avoid Them

Navigating the dating world can sometimes feel like solving an impossible puzzle.

You’re not alone - many men have fallen into the same common pitfalls. Fear not!

We’re here to help you avoid those common dating mistakes.

If you’re ready to find more success in dating, you’ve come to the right place.

Let’s take a look at our dating ‘do not’ list:


Do Not Rush

One of the most common mistakes is diving headfirst into a new relationship. It’s great you feel so excited, but pushing things too fast can be a massive turn-off. Give your date some room to breathe. Let the relationship develop organically and don’t force milestones. Remember, a strong foundation takes time to build. 

Do Not Monologue

Imagine going on a date and she doesn’t let you get a single word in. Don’t be that guy. Conversation is a two-way street, be careful not to dominate the discussion. Ask open-ended questions and show genuine interest in her thoughts and experiences. Having a real conversation is a much more engaging and enjoyable experience for everyone. 

Do Not Play Games

Playing hard to get or being overly mysterious isn’t always a great approach. Honesty and transparency are far more appealing. If you’re interested, let her know. If you’re not, kindly let her know. Being emotionally available is important to mature women looking for a relationship. Clear communication paves the way for genuine emotional connection. 

Do Not Be Overly Negative

Nobody likes a whiner. Avoid dwelling on negative topics. Whether it’s discussing past relationships, complaining about work, or other things that bring down the mood. Try to focus on positive parts of your life and keep the conversation light. If you’re struggling with something, try talking to a trusted friend or family member. 

Do Not Overlook the Small Gestures

Never underestimate the power of small gestures. Holding doors, sending a thoughtful text, offering your jacket - these are simple things that can make a big impact. It’s the little things that count when it comes to showing your thoughtfulness and consideration. 

Do Not Be Distracted

You’re on a date with a person, not your phone. Keep it put away and put it on Do Not Disturb. Looking through your phone sends a message that you’re not interested in her or what she’s saying. 

Do Not Overshare

While being open is important, oversharing can overwhelm your date. This is particularly true for the first few dates. Avoid turning the date into your personal therapy session. Sharing intimate details prematurely can be uncomfortable for your date. Gradually revealing more about yourself as the relationship naturally progresses helps maintain a healthy balance of vulnerability and mystery.

Do Not Brush Off Boundaries

Respecting personal boundaries is absolutely necessary. Avoid making physical advances without clear signals of interest and comfort. Consent is king. Pushing boundaries can lead to discomfort and even ruin a great connection. If you’re unsure, ask. 

Do Not Take Rejection Personally

Rejection sucks. Nobody likes feeling rejected and it can be hard not to take it personally. How you handle rejection says a lot about your character. Respond with grace and understanding. Acknowledge her decision and thank her for her honesty. Don’t lash out in anger. You aren’t every woman’s perfect guy and that’s ok. 

Wrap up & next steps

Mistakes are part of life and dating is no exception. The key is to learn from your missteps and continue growing.

By avoiding these common dating blunders, you will find more success in dating and relationships.

Keep your chin up, stay genuine, and move forward on your journey to a more fulfilling dating life. 

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