📲😰 Texting after a first date is tricky:
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Today we'll cover EXACTLY what to text a girl after a first date, with examples.
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Exactly what to text a woman after a first date depends on:
If you're reading this article, though, chances are:
In this case, a normal pattern to follow is:
For example, let's say you went to Taco Tuesday for your date:
If you're struggling to find a detail from your date to mention, and you're generally less comfortable with text conversations, you can try a more direct approach:
The first approach is better because it's more conversational, and organic.
Still, if she likes you and wants to see you again, the second approach will work just fine!
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If you're just seeking a quick answer here...
Text her around noon the next day.
This is because:
The more accurate and nuanced answer, though, is...
The stronger your connection on the date, the sooner it's OK text.
For example, if you shared a hot-and-heavy kiss at the end, and you both couldn't stop blabbering about how you can't wait to see each other again, and you even made plans for a second date before you parted ways...
First off, good for you 😏
Second off, texting something like the following that same night might be appropriate:
If you're not 100% sure when you should text, though, the safest choice is to just wait for around noon the next day, and use the message pattern we covered earlier!
I'd not heard of the "three day rule" before preparing to write this article, but supposedly it states that you should wait three days to follow up after a first date.
I was hesitant to even address it here because...
The three day rule is a steaming pile of b.s. 💩
Still, I'm touching on it to dispel any misconceptions you have about texting women.
In short, do NOT wait 3 days to text a woman after a date.
Before we wrap up, let's touch on four other post-first date texting FAQs.
A: There's no rush to ask her on a second date. However, if you two formed a genuine connection, you'll want to see each other again within a week unless there's a reason you can't (e.g. you're out of town). Ask her on a second date once she signals she enjoyed your first date!
A: If she takes >24 hours to reply to your text, and she her response is tepid, she may not want a second date. And that's OK! There are 1,000 reasons she could lose interest that have nothing to do with you. The only way to know for sure if she is, or isn't, interested is to ask her out again.
A: There aren't firm rules here, but texting tends to be the norm for how people communicate between at least their first few dates. Unless you're confident she would appreciate a phone call, you're best off sticking to text.
A: Sometimes! There aren't firm rules here either, and it's usually a good sign if a girl proactively texts you after a first date (unless of course her message is "I had fun, but...")
Now that you know what to text after a first date...
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