I'm Blaine, and I'm an online dating coach

As an online dating coach, I help guys like you (yes, you!) land more matches, send better messages, and date sexier women.

More granularly, by working with an online dating coach like me, you will learn to:

• 📸 Get the right photos for your profiles on apps like Tinder, Bumble, and Plenty of Fish.
• ✍️ Write engaging prompts and bios that motivate women to connect with you.
• 👋 Match with more (and more attractive) women generally, so you start getting the results you deserve.
• 📲 Send the right text messages so you create chemistry, land dates, and stop getting ghosted.

Online dating is one of my specialties, though I don't focus on online dating exclusively by any means! Most of my clients also hire me to:

• 🤠 Build confidence so you feel more secure, and less anxious, when you interact with women.
• 📅 Plan fun dates that lead to deeper connections and relationships.
• 💕 Create romantic chemistry so you land more first, second, third, fourth (and more!) dates.
• 🔍 Find the right partner based on your lifestyle, needs, and criteria.
• 💪 Build relationships on your terms and generally have more fun and options dating.

Basically, whether you specifically want help meeting women on Raya, or you want help with dating and women more broadly, I'm your gal!

My clients' results are my most important credentials.

I've helped 1,000+ men date women they're excited about in my career as a dating coach. This includes guys from every background you can imagine (tall, short, introverted, extroverted, athletic, not, white, black, Asian, Indian, etc!) Scope my clients' stories on my Testimonials page, and my new Wall of Love.

Also, 2mm+ men per month tune in for my free dating tips on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube, and my advice has been published in the NYPost, Forbes, Vice i-D, Cosmo, and more.

Assuming you hire a quality coach, coaching works!

How fast you see results will depend on several factors:

First, what you want to accomplish.

• Strictly need help with texting? You can get literally immediate results with a self-serve program like my Texting OS.
• Not getting any matches? You may need new photos, which can take weeks depending on your schedule.
• Struggling with self-confidence? It may take considerable focused effort over months to see true improvement.

Many men who are considering investing in a dating coach want to accomplish larger goals than just dating online, which is why I offer my 12 week Jumpstart program.

Second, your work ethic.

For online dating specifically, most guys just need to nail a few formulaic things to get more (and better) dates from apps like Hinge:

• 6x photos
• 3x written "prompts" and ~150 character written bio
• Simple messaging + texting strategy

You could probably knock everything out in one workday (i.e. 8 hours), but it requires you to do things you probably don't do often (e.g. take photos of yourself) and if you're lazy, you won't get it done.

Dating more generally is a little less formulaic, though contrary to popular belief, it's a lot like any other skill. The more effort you invest, the better the results you’ll get.

Coaching isn't magic, and you can’t cheat the grind. But the same way you will get pretty damn good at tennis by playing for an hour a day with a pro for 3 months, you will get pretty damn good at dating by devoting an hour a day to working with me for 3 months.

Third, your ability to follow directions.

Through working with 1,000+ clients, I’ve learned that (A) some men follow directions MUCH better than others, and (B) this difference perfectly corresponds to guys' results from working with me.

A good test is, did you get good grades in school when you focused on your work?

If yes, you can expect results fast!

If not (e.g. even when you studied for 100 hours, you still failed the test), honestly you may not get results with me or any other coach.

Hiring an online dating coach can start at around $100, and scale up to over $10,000! Prices will depend on your specific coach, and the extent of the services you're seeking, but keep in mind that:

1. Well-known coaches aren't cheap. Coaches with big followings tend to have a lot of demand for their services, and their rates reflect this.
2. Expensive ≠ effective. Sadly I've worked with a number of clients who've told me, "I spent thousands with another coach, and I'm still stuck in the same place..."
3. You can find help on any budget. If a coach doesn't have a product or service in your price-range, they're not the right coach for you!

Great coaches aren't cheap, so this is a good question. You should think about three things:

First, how valuable are results to you? Coaching can be a significant investment, but if it brings you the skills you need to land a partner you're excited about, it may be a great deal.

Second, what else would you do with the money? If hiring a dating coach means you'll have trouble meeting basic expenses like rent, please do NOT hire a dating coach yet. But if the financial impact on your quality of life would be relatively minimal, why wait?!

Third, what are the consequences of not hiring a coach? Imagine yourself in 6 months, or 6 years: what does your life look like if you don't hire a coach, and you stay on the same track? What could your life look like if you do hire a coach?

One more thing to consider: good dating coaches offer money-back guarantees (myself included!) to let you try their services without taking big risks.

This is like asking a barber if you need a haircut! 

Thankfully I'm in a place with my career where I'm busy enough that I often turn down potential clients, so I should be able to answer objectively...

The answer is that it depends.

Many people can benefit from working with an online dating coach, but some people can’t...

The 3 most important things to consider are:

#1: Do you have growth mindset? If you think you have things to learn, you'll probably learn a lot (and see great results!) by hiring a dating coach. Some people sadly think they “can't be helped,” however, and this mindset is self-fulfilling.

#2: Do you feel motivated? The more eager you feel to make progress, the higher the likelihood you get results. If you're just curious, or unsure of what you want to achieve, the lower the likelihood you'll get results, no matter how skilled your coach is.

#3: Are you able to invest? If you're able to budget time, energy, and money for self-improvement, a coach can be a great investment. If you’re working 90-hour weeks, or you worry you'd miss the money, you should hold off.

I could claim I'm the best, but  candidly it's impossible to identify a single "best" coach.

First off, comparisons are often apples-to-oranges. Different coaches focus on different things, for example:

• Some coaches are pickup artists, who try to teach "game" for picking up girls at bars
• Some coaches exclusively focus on online dating (i.e. refining your profiles and messaging)
• Other coaches, like me, take a more holistic approach

Second off, coaches' results are often opaque. Part of the challenge is that many people who hire a dating coach want to remain 100% anonymous. I've had to work with over 1,000 clients to get ~100 client testimonials.

One thing is true, however.

Many "best" lists, like the top dating coaches disrupting the industry, are b.s. 💩

The organizations that create them typically don't evaluate coaches' skills, or clients' results...

Any coach who pays up can join!

These lists are a disgrace to the coaching industry.

Steer clear of any coaches who market themselves with phony credential like these.

There are many awesome online dating coaches out there, as well as many charlatans you want to steer clear of.

To find the right coach, consider:

1. Does the coach's advice resonate with you? Most coaches share free tips on social media (e.g. I'm all over Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube). Do you trust what the coach has to say? When you implement the advice, does it work?
2. How strong are their testimonials? A trustworthy coach should have dozens of client stories like mine for you to peruse. If you're chatting with a coach who only has a handful of dubious-looking testimonials, run.
3. Would you enjoy spending time with them? Your coach will be riding shotgun with you for weeks or months. Make sure you feel confident they're the type of person you want to welcome into your life!

If you find a coach for whom the answer to all three questions is "yes," they're probably a good fit!

I'm glad you asked!

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