I'm Blaine, a dating coach for men

I help men like you (yes, you!) build confidence, learn to flirt, and attract women they're excited about.

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Let's get you unstuck already!

As the #1 men's dating coach, I've helped 2,000+ clients build confidence, permanently escape the friend zone, and land awesome girlfriends 🤠

My free advice reaches millions of guys each month on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube, and my work has been featured in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Forbes, Psychology Today, and more.

Whether you're looking for a long-term partner, or more fun and options ASAP, I'd love to help!

What guys are saying about Blaine

My partner and I have been together for a little over 6 months now. Our chemistry has gotten so much stronger. Thank you Blaine for your guidance, I hope your awesome business continues far into the future!

Anthony, Port Orchard

2022 Client

Dating is no longer nerve-wracking. It was purely based on Blaine’s advice that my dating life has improved. Now I don’t feel awkward when I talk to someone.

KV, San Jose

Engaged, 2023

Blaine completely changed the game for me. When I took her advice, I started to get instant results, and wound up in a relationship with a really cool woman.

Francis, Washington D.C.

2022 Client

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Curious about dating coaching for men?

Here are my answers to guys' frequently asked questions!

What is a dating coach for men?

As a dating coach, I help guys like you (yes, you!) build self-esteem, learn to flirt, and attract women you're excited about.

Specifically, I help men:

👋 Meet women you're attracted to both in-person, and on apps like Bumble, Hinge, and OKCupid.

😏 Flirt and create chemistry when you communicate with women, even "9s and 10s."

📲 Send the right messages so you land dates, and stop getting ghosted.

📅 Plan fun dates that lead to deeper connections and relationships

💇 Look your best with respect to both your grooming and wardrobe.

🤠 Put your best foot forward so you feel secure, not anxious, around women.

🔍 Find the right partner based on your lifestyle, needs, and criteria.

Dating coaches may go by a few different names (e.g. "dating counselor" or "dating consultant"), but these terms are interchangable!

What qualifies you to be a dating coach?

My most important credentials are my clients' results 😊

I've helped 2,500+ clients transform their dating lives through my courses and coaching programs.

More than 95% report they'd recommend working with me to a friend.

In addition to the testimonials scattered throughout this page, you can check out 100+ more of my clients' stories on my Reviews page, and my new Wall of Love ❤️

Also, millions of guys tune in for my free dating advice every month my Instagram, and I've been featured in media outlets like the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, NYPost, Forbes, Psychology Today, Vice i-D, Cosmo, and more.

Does dating coaching even work?

Dating coaching absolutely works, as long as you hire the right coach 😉

Whether you personally will see results with a dating coach depends on a few things:

1. The scope of what you want to accomplish.

Strictly want help with tactical things like texting? You can get immediate results with a self-serve program like my Texting OS.

Struggling with self-confidence? It may take weeks, or even months, of focused effort to achieve real change.

Most men who are considering investing in a dating coach want to accomplish bigger goals, which is why I offer my Masterclass and my 12 week 1x1 Jumpstart program.

2. How hard you work.

Stepping back, coaching ≠ magic, and contrary to popular belief, dating is a lot like any other skill.

The more effort you invest, the better the results you’ll get.

You can’t cheat the grind, but the same way you will get pretty damn good at tennis by playing for an hour a day with a pro for 3 months, you will get pretty damn good at dating by devoting an hour a day to one of my programs for 3 months.

3. How well you follow directions.

Having served 2,000+ clients, I’ve observed that (A) there is a big difference in how well some men follow directions versus others, and (B) this difference is directly proportional to the results guys get from my programs.

Good at following instructions? For example, school wasn’t too hard when you applied yourself?

You will get results fast!

Bad at following instructions? For example, sometimes it felt like no matter how hard you worked, you just couldn't understand things in school?

Candidly my programs may not help you, and I wouldn't want you to make a bad investment ❤️

How much does a dating coach cost?

Working with a dating coach can cost anywhere from $100 to $10,000 depending on who you work with, and what you want to accomplish.

Speaking for myself, my programs cost:

Three trends on the cost of coaching that I've observed to be true are:

  1. Great coaches aren't cheap. If a coach has built a national or international following, they may have more demand for their services than they can keep up with, and their rates will reflect this.
  2. Expensive ≠ effective. I can't tell you how many clients have told me horror stories like, "I spent >$10,000 on another coach, but I'm no better off than I was before..."
  3. Getting help shouldn't break the bank. Good dating coaches will have a variety of offerings that work for different budgets.
Is hiring a dating coach worth it?

If you're feeling stuck with women or dating, hiring a dating coach can be 100% worth it!

😙 Just make sure you hire a good coach.

A few other things you should consider:

  • What are results worth to you? Most good coaches aren't cheap, but if you'll build the skills you need to attract an awesome partner, that may be very valuable.
  • What's your opportunity cost? If hiring a dating coach would represent a significant financial burden (e.g. you'd have trouble making rent), 100% don't hire one. But if the tradeoff is more like "one less weekend trip with the boys," hiring a coach may be a killer investment.
  • What happens if you don't hire a dating coach? Think into the future: what does your life look like in 3 months, or 3 years, if you don't make a change? What could your life look like in 3 months, or 3 years, if you do?

It's worth calling out that most good dating coaches (myself included) offer money-back guarantees. This can enable you to try coaching with minimal risk.

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Is coaching right for me?

Asking a dating coach this question is a little like asking a barber if you need a haircut ✂️😜

Hopefully I can answer this objectively, because I'm blessed to be in a place professionally where I regularly have to turn away prospective clients...

The honest answer is, it depends!

Many guys can benefit from working with a dating coach, but some guys can’t.

The three key considerations are:

1. Do you believe you can grow? As long as you believe you have opportunities to learn and improve your skills, you'll get good results with a dating coach. However, some guys believe they’re “beyond help,” and this attitude is self-fulfilling... Basically, it’s hard to learn if you don’t believe you have anything to learn.

2. Are you motivated? The more motivated you are to make a change, and achieve a specific result in your dating life, the more likely you are to find value from coaching. If you're merely curious, or you’re not sure what you want, you're less likely to achieve results, no matter how skilled your coach is.

3. Can you invest? If you can comfortably invest time, energy, and money in improving yourself and your outcomes with women, a dating coach can be very helpful. If you’re working 90-hour weeks, and don’t have the time or energy to invest in yourself, you won’t get great results from coaching.

Who are the best dating coaches for men?

As much as I'd love to claim I'm the best dating coach out there (and I have a number of credentials to support it 😉), there's not really one "best" coach.

First off, comparisons aren't apples-to-apples. Different coaches have different focuses that can make them hard to compare. For example:

  • There are "pickup artists," who focus on "game" for meeting women at bars
  • There are online dating coaches, who focus exclusively on dating apps
  • There are dating coaches for men like me, who take a holistic and systems-oriented approach to dating

Second off, coaching performance can be opaque. Many clients are hesitant to talk about their experiences publicly, and some coaches publish counterfeit reviews 😬

Still, you can get a strong sense of whether a coach is good by:

  1. Reading their testimonials and reviews
  2. Looking at their free advice, and particularly their following on social media (my Instagram is @datingbyblaine)
  3. Talking with them directly

Be sure to do all 3 before making a decision!

How should I choose a dating coach?

There are great dating coaches out there, as well as plenty of imposters you should to avoid...

To find the right coach, the three most important things to consider are:

  1. Do you trust the coach's advice? Most coaches publish free advice to social media to attract clients (e.g. I share tips daily on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube). Do these tips resonate with you, and seem actionable?
  2. Does the coach have real testimonials? Good coaches will have dozens of client reviews like mine you can review. If the coach you're considering can only point you to a handful of shady-looking testimonials, run.
  3. Do you want to spend time with them? If you move forward with a dating coach, you'll be communicating with them closely (or watching hours of their programming), so it's important you enjoy their company.

If your answer to all three questions is "yes," you've probably found a good coach!

Should I work with a dating coach near me?

For most guys, whether you're co-located with your coach isn't TERRIBLY important.

Virtually all dating coaches coach clients remotely (e.g. over Zoom and email), and few coaches offer in-person services because dating coaching is still a nascent industry, and there's usually not enough demand in any one location for coaches to support themselves this way.

In my opinion, rather than worrying about whether you can work with a coach in-person...

📍 Find a coach who you connect with interpersonally.

Your ability to communicate clearly and comfortably your coach will matter way more for your success than whether (or how often) you sit in the same room together.

With that in mind, it can helpful to hire a coach who knows the city you're dating in.

For example, having lived and dated in NYC, San Francisco, Austin, Los Angeles, and a dozen cities across Europe, I have city-specific insights that other coaches might not.

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