Knowing if a woman feels sexually attracted to you can be tricky.
Women don't always know when they feel sexually aroused themselves, according to sexual concordance research!
For this reason, or thanks to societal norms, or both:
Thankfully, there are 10 subtle signs women use to signal their sexual attraction.
Let's dive in to them 🪂
Did you know that there's an entire field of study devoted to the amount of space people set between themselves and others?
It's called proxemics, and the key callout is that people in western cultures tend to think about the space around ourselves in four "zones":
(Curious to learn more? Check out this Proxemics 101 article from the MIT Press!)
Anyway, if a woman you're flirting with moves into your intimate zone, there's a good chance she's sexually attracted to you.
Think about it. She's placing you into her intimate zone by scooting into yours...
Which signals she feels comfortable with you physically, and wants to be close enough she can touch you...
This is almost always a good sign 🥰
There are of course exceptions!
That is to say, just because a woman enters your intimate zone, you can't be certain she wants to have sex with you. She may be just be a stranger seated next to you on a plane for example 😉✈️
Stepping back here...
Signs in isolation seldom mean much.
But, the more signs you see, and the more the signs make sense in the broader context of your relationship with a woman, the more likely she's actually sexually attracted to you.
And, as far as individual signs go, a woman moving close to you, particularly <18" inches away, is a potent one 🌶️
You're in a coffee shop, and a cutie walks in. She's in her workout outfit, her hair is pulled back, and she looks good 👀
Know how it's hard to not look when you're sexually attracted to a woman?
Women feel the same way!
If a woman repeatedly looks over at you, it's often a sign she's sexually attracted to you.
Body language expert Monica Moore's courtship research found that women will often gaze across a room to capture a man's attention, and women often make repeated eye contact with a man to signal that he should approach.
It should go without saying that even if she's staring at you, it doesn't necessarily mean she's trying to hop in the sack.
For example, a woman might have difficulty taking her eyes off you if you spill something gross on your shirt 😅
But particularly in conjunction with other signs, repeated and protracted eye contact can indicate strong sexual interest and chemistry.
One more eye sign to keep an eye out for: dilated pupils.
Especially if you're close enough to her to notice her pupils are enlarged, there's a good chance she's sexually attracted to you 🔥
Know how when someone you want to spend more time with asks if you have weekend plans, you might unintentionally blurt out:
🗣️ I'm around!
... Even if you have 100 things on your calendar already?
Women are the same way.
If a girl is sexually attracted to you, she'll make herself available to you!
Availability can manifest in a variety of ways, for example:
I often talk about how effort = interest, so the last point is particularly important. If a woman isn't receptive to making plans to see you in-person (e.g. she's evasive when you try to schedule dates), she's not attracted to you, sexually or otherwise, and you should cut bait.
This one's pretty intuitive...
So the better her mood is around you, the more likely she feels sexual chemistry!
Two specific signs to keep an eye out for:
Teasing is one of my favorite ways to flirt.
If a woman feels comfortable playfully teasing you, it often mean she feels sexual attraction.
For example, if you compliment a girl you're seeing on her outfit, and...
🗣️ SHE SAYS, PLAYFULLY:
You would like that, wouldn't you?
Or, maybe you sense some chemistry between you and a colleague, and the next time you're chatting about a project...
🗣️ SHE SAYS, PLAYFULLY:
Aren't you Mr. Smarty Pants?
She's flirting, and probably sexually attracted to you!
Check out my article on how to tease a girl for dozens more examples.
Then, if you notice a woman is playfully teasing you, you'll be ready to both tease her back, and escalate things appropriately 😏
We already talked about how, if a woman you're chatting with feels comfortable standing close to you (and specifically if she enters your "intimate zone")...
There's a good chance she feels sexually attracted to you ⚡
If she touches you, too, that's an even better sign!
When woman puts her hand on your leg, arm, or face, it's often a deliberate strategy to initiate a closer physical connection, and escalate things romantically.
Plus, physical touch is an essential component of foreplay and sex...
If she initiates touch, try rolling with it, touching her back, and escalating things together.
Obviously, the situation and environment matters here. If your flirty colleague touches your hand when she laughs at a joke you told, and you're together in the office:
Basically, it's reasonable to associate touch with sexuality, but use common sense, and escalate appropriately 😎
Did you know that women are more sensitive to physical touch than men?
According to a famous JNeurosci study on touch, because women are smaller than men, women have more nerve endings per unit of skin surface area, which makes them more sensitive to physical touch!
With this in mind...
If a woman touches herself when you're together, it's often because she's sexually attracted to you.
For example, if she strokes her own wrist, thigh, or neck, she may be both:
If a woman fondles a personal object (particularly a handbag, or a cylindrical object like a wine glass stem), this can also be revealing of secret or subconscious sexual fantasies!
There's a strong chance a woman is sexually attracted to you if she sends you selfies, or other photos of herself.
Women and men both may share photos as a courtship behavior!
This is because photos can help us:
On the other hand, I have seen studies that suggest sharing photos, selfies specifically, is linked to lower-quality relationships.
I wouldn't necessarily sweat this, though:
However, if you're seeing a woman who's publicly broadcasting "thirst traps" on social media, there's a good chance she's seeking attention from more than just you!
Know how you try to look sharp when you're meeting a woman you're attracted to?
(And you'll feel awkward if you bump into her when you're wearing old gym clothes...)
Similarly, women will dress things up when they're sexually attracted to a man!
In short, the more she attempts to draw attention to appearance (and preparation of it) when she's around you, the more likely she is to be sexually attracted to you 🥰
If a girl wants to come see your place, or go home with you...
You probably don't need me to explain why it's a sign she's sexually attracted to you 😉
Still, two thoughts that might be worth considering:
I hope this overview of the signs a woman is sexually attracted to you was helpful 🙋♀️
The most important things to remember are:
Anyway, now that you're familiar with the signs...
Here are three ideas to help you find a partner who displays them 😜👇
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