Coffee shops can be great places to meet women, especially in this increasingly remote-work friendly world.
Spot a cutie in front of you in line, or at a table nearby?
Here are three ways to stir conversation:
🌞 If you're there daily... Literally just introduce yourself, by saying something like "I'm Blaine, and I basically live at this table! I haven't seen you here before — are you new to the neighborhood?"
🤓 If she's reading or working on something familiar... Wait until you wouldn't be distracting her, then ask a contextual question like, "Is that Empire Falls by Richard Russo? I've always wanted to read that — how is it?" or "I couldn't help but notice you're working in a spreadsheet — I've spent way too much time in those — how's the model coming?"
😳 If she orders a strong coffee... Try teasing her! "Wow, triple espresso — big day ahead, or big night in the rearview?"
On this note...
Wondering if it's OK to approach your barista or bartender?
It can be! Get to know her first, over multiple visits.
If there's a real connection, try asking her to get a coffee or drink someone else has to pour 😉
Just remember that people in the service industry make their living by being friendly to you.
You should have reason to believe your barista or bartender likes you, beyond just that she's friendly, before you ask her out
If you ask, treat anything short of an enthusiastic "yes!" as a "no thanks"
3. Volunteer activities
Volunteer activities can be amazing ways to meet women, especially women who are caring and civic-minded.
Want to get started volunteering and meeting people?
Check out volunteer sites like VolunteerMatch, or try Googling for volunteer activities based on your interests. For example, you can search:
😅 Assume anything short of a clear "yes!" means "no"
⚾ One strike and you're out (i.e. don't ask the same colleague out >1 time)
11. Through friends
If you're wondering how to meet women, "through friends" might feel like a cheap answer.
If it were that easy, wouldn't you have met someone already?!
Here's the thing...
Friends are an amazing way to meet women, if you're deliberate.
Here are three intentional strategies you can try to meet women through friends:
🍖 Organize a +1 event. For example, host a BBQ at your house, invite friends, and ask the friends you invite to also invite a friend you don't know. This ensures you'll meet someone new!
💌 Ask for introductions. More people like to play matchmaker than you might think. You can flat-out ask your friends for introductions by saying something like, "I've been dating around but haven't met anyone I like yet — know any girls who you think I should meet?"
🤝 Make new friends. If you're thinking to yourself, "my friends suck and don't know any girls..." then you owe it to yourself to stop reading this, and start making new friends!
Side note: don't be afraid to make (or lean into existing) platonic female friendships. Women tend to know more women than men 🙂
Wrap up & next steps
Now that you know where to meet women...
Ready to approach the RIGHT way, without being awkward or creepy?