This may surprise you, but the gym is actually a great place to meet women.
I know from personal experience —
I met my husband at the gym!
Don't drop your dumbbells, and start spitting game at every spandex-wearing woman who enters your local Equinox quite yet 😜
Let's cover the 3 steps you need to know to make it work out.
The same way you'd feel annoyed if a stranger interrupted you while you were repping squats, or in between sets of reverse flys...
(Or at the least, you'd wonder, “why is this weirdo bothering me?”)
Girls at the gym don't want to be approached during their workouts!
As a general rule of thumb, it's generally wise to avoid approaching women on the gym floor entirely —
☝ This isn't to say it's never OK to approach a girl on the gym floor.
For example, if she's working out right next to you, and you've already smiled at each other, by all means start a conversation!
It's just usually better to approach after your workouts, for example:
To increase the likelihood she wants to talk with you...
Create a non-verbal connection while you're on the gym floor, by smiling and making eye contact, first!
Her response (i.e. does she smile back?) tells you everything you need to know about whether she’s receptive to chatting, plus it gives you an excuse to approach later — you can literally say, "Hey, we made eye contact earlier, and I wanted to introduce myself..."
Just remember not to stare.
If she notices you're continuously looking over at her during your workout, she'll probably feel uncomfortable.
Now that you've worked up the courage to approach your gym crush, and you're coincidentally walking out of the lobby at the same time...
❌📲 Don't ask for her number quite yet!
The gym is a special place for women.
The last thing a girl wants is to feel uncomfortable about visiting because she gets unwanted attention in the parking lot...
Instead of asking for her number, simply introduce yourself.
Have a friendly conversation, enthusiastically say, "I'll look forward to bumping into you again sometime!" and part ways.
You increase your likelihood of successfully sparking romance 100x by waiting to ask for her number until your second or third conversation because it shows you're socially intelligent:
Once you've chatted in a friendly way once or twice, you ask her out by saying something like:
"You have great energy, and I love chatting with you — what would you think about grabbing a drink outside of the gym sometime?"
Still not sure how to just break the ice?
You don't need to say anything fancy. Here are two more strategies you can try:
On this note...
Group fitness classes tend to be easier places to meet women than regular gyms, because usually there's some socializing baked in (e.g. meeting your neighbor before class).
I met my husband at Barry's Bootcamp for example!
In case you haven't heard of the one-strike rule before...
It's a policy that HR teams at companies like Facebook and Google use for workplace romances, and it's relevant for approaching a girl at the gym, so listen up!
You get ONE chance to ask your crush out.
If she doesn’t clearly reciprocate your interest, it's game over, and you should move on. You don't get two more "strikes" to approach the same girl again!
Also, keep in mind that the standard is clearly reciprocate, not seem possibly receptive — if you ask your gym crush out, and she says something like:
"Ah, I'd love to, but I'm really busy right now..."
She actually means “no,” and you should let it go.
Just as important, if she’s not enthusiastically engaging in conversation with you before you'd ask her out, don't ask her out!
Whether you’re approaching a woman at the gym, a bar, or a party, look for signs she's interested (for example, these signs a girl is flirting with you) 🥰
Worried the gym isn't your place?
First, Check out my guide where to meet women for 11 more places you can meet women.
Then, here are a few more ideas for you...
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