If you just caught your girlfriend cheating…
First, I’m sorry 💔
Few things hurt more (at least emotionally) than betrayal by a partner you’ve loved and trusted.
No one deserves to be cheated on, but it unfortunately happens, and I feel for you.
Since you caught your girlfriend cheating, however, you’re left with an important decision…
💭 Now what?
Today, I’ll walk you through the four essential steps to take if your girlfriend was caught cheating.
The goal is for you to move forward with as much serenity and grace (and as little pain 🤕) as possible.
Stay strong, and read on!
You probably feel a lot of awful emotions right now 😦😡😵💫
This is natural. And you’re entitled to feel angry.
But realize that losing your cool, particularly with your girlfriend, will make what’s already a bad situation worse.
Right now your #1 priority is to stay calm, so you can chart the right path forward with a clear head.
Here are a few strategies that can help:
Two things that won’t help are:
Once you’ve gotten passed the initial shock of having caught your girlfriend cheating, it’s time to have an honest look at your relationship.
It’s likely that a fundamental aspect of the relationship was broken, prior to the occurrence of cheating.
Framed another way, cheating is a proximate problem, and symptomatic of a deeper root cause that led to it.
It’s easy to feel like a victim when you catch your partner cheating, but the reality is that cheating doesn’t happen in a vacuum.
For example it’s possible she’s reckless and untrustworthy, and 100% to blame for what happened, but also consider that:
This isn’t to imply you’ve done anything wrong in a situation where your girlfriend is caught cheating.
It’s just to encourage you to question the deeper root causes, so that you can avoid a painful recurrence.
On that note…
You also must honestly assess what you want from the relationship going forward.
Cheating is obviously incredibly damaging to trust and intimacy, but it isn’t inherently a death sentence for your relationship 💀
Many relationships bounce back after an incidence of cheating. Many relationships don’t…
Whether you should give things another chance depends on many factors, including:
🤷 The right decision may be to walk away. Or it may be to give things another chance…
Ultimately this is a personal choice that requires honest reflection. It’s almost always beneficial to take the time and space to gain clarity around what you want before discussing it with your partner.
When it’s eventually time to talk to your significant other and tell them you caught them cheating, be direct.
Don’t dance around what happened. Tell them what you know, and how it makes you feel.
When you confront your significant other, you may catch them off-guard.
A couple of tips to make this conversation as clean and productive as possible:
Another benefit of listening, even though it’s hard, is that you’ll better understand what actually went wrong.
This understanding is important, so you can avoid a recurrence of being cheated on going forward (whether you stay with this partner, or find another).
Catching a significant other cheating can affect us for a long time.
Lingering feelings of betrayal, anger, jealousy, and sadness are normal after you’ve caught her cheating.
While healing may be a long road ahead, one of the best ways to begin is to understand that it’s not about you.
Cheating isn’t a reflection of who you are, or your worth.
It’s possible that your behavior may have contributed to your partner’s decision to cheat. But remember that:
To summarize, no matter how you decide to move on, you must take responsibility for your role in what happened without blaming yourself. This will enable you to heal, learn, and move forward with your life.
Catching a partner cheating feels terrible, and there is no one way to cope and heal.
But you will get the best results, and enjoy the brightest future, if you can:
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