Have you ever met a woman, and immediately wanted to cancel plans with friends to spend more time with her?
Or, after just one date, have you ever offered to:
These are classic “simp” behaviors 😬
Simp (short for “simpleton”) refers to men who emotionally over-invest in women in hopes of winning affection.
The Wikipedia entry for "simp" covers what the term means in detail if you're curious.
Instead of discussing what it means to be a simp today…
Let’s talk about how to NOT be a simp.
Why should you learn how to not be a simp?
Today we’ll cover 3 strategies for how to not be a simp — let's dive in 🪂
Boundaries are limits you set that govern your interactions with other people.
Here are common examples of boundaries:
Boundaries are particularly helpful in a dating context, because they help you both:
Want to learn how to not be a simp?
You must set boundaries with women you’re attracted to.
Here are a few boundaries you can set to stop being a simp:
One last word for the wise on boundaries:
Your life should include her, not be her.
Boundaries will help you strike the right balance here!
Simps subconsciously believe things like:
"The more I do for a woman, the more she will be attracted to me…"
That couldn’t be farther than the truth!
Another critical step toward learning how to not be a simp is prioritizing yourself.
💭 To illustrate this, imagine this common simp scenario…
This is a classic dilemma that can lead to both unhappiness with yourself, and relationship drama.
To avoid simp setbacks you must re-prioritize yourself.
You’ll have to learn to put your personal goal above your desire to not rock the boat in your relationship.
To stick with the bedtime example, setting boundaries may help:
Following through will require willpower, confidence, commitment, and just pure self-prioritization…
But guess what?
Women find these traits sexy!
As you develop willpower, confidence, and commitment to yourself, you can expect to attract higher-quality partners.
Furthermore, women who you are actually compatible with long-term will appreciate that you prioritize your own wellbeing ❤️
Simps tend to assume that attracting quality women is a struggle.
As a result, simps tend to throw themselves at the first attractive woman who will entertain the idea of dating them, even when:
A key to learning how to not be a simp is to stop settling.
Not settling can look like a couple different things:
Learning to understand and accept your own psychology can help.
Once you realize that your modus operandi is to dive headlong into relationships with women you’re not ultimately compatible with, you can:
In other words, learning to not settle can require acknowledging that you may do it (and “simp”) today.
This isn’t always easy, but it can save you lots of trouble and heartache down the road!
To stop being a simp, you just need to do 3 things:
Ah! One more secret on how to not be a simp…
You can’t just implement one of these strategies, and forgo the others, if you want results. They build on each other:
Try them together, and watch how quickly you learn how to not be a simp.
Also, here are 3 more ideas for you 👇
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