If you're comfortable with initiating touch, and you want to turn your partner on, try:
👉 Putting your arms around her lower back, and pulling her in toward you
👉 Putting your hand on her leg when you're seated next to each other
👉 Resting your hand on hers, and lightly stroking your finger back and forth
All three moves, particularly when coupled with gentle stroke, can quickly create arousing experiences.
Less experienced with touch?
If you're worried it could be inappropriate or creepy to initiate touch, try two things:
Gently test the waters by touching her hand, elbow, or arm. These are non-invasive places that are usually safe to try on a first date. Just pay attention to how she reacts to understand if she likes being touched, or not.
When in doubt, ask. It’s wise, not weird, to get consent to touch a woman if you're not sure she'd like it. This is as simple as saying "Can I put my arm around you?"
6. Kiss her
You've heard the song, and it's true:
🎼 One kiss is all it takes...
To turn a woman you're seeing on, give her a kiss!
Kissing is romantic, and serves as the main gateway to more intimate physical activities 😉
A great kiss can be a destination in itself, too, of course.
Many women will reminisce about their favorite kiss as fondly as their favorite memory of any other romantic physical experience.
Still, especially if your main objective is more like 👉👌 than 💏...
Don't rush the kiss.
Last year, I surveyed more than 1,000 American women ages 21 to 35 to ask what they wanted more of in the bedroom.
Dozens of responses were literally just "kissing," and hundreds of other responses like "more foreplay" (10% of women) implied the involvement of kissing.
In short, kissing is a powerful turn-on for women.
Don't overthink the kiss (e.g. worry about whether you should use tongue)
Do what feels natural, get feedback from your partner, and have fun!
7. Give her a massage
One of the most powerful ways to turn a girl on is to give her a massage.
I'm not exactly qualified to give advice on how to massage someone (I'm a dating coach, not a masseuse!) but thankfully you don't need to do anything too complicated 💆♀️
To turn a woman on with a massage, keep it simple:
Sit behind her, ideally a few feet above (e.g. you're on a couch, and she's on the floor) so her head is roughly lap-level for you
Rub her shoulders, upper back, and neck using your thumbs to apply light pressure
Run your fingers through her hair too (scalp massages are a favorite for many people)
Listen to her feedback on what motion (and how much pressure) feels good
Foot massages can also be a major turn on! Ask your partner what she'd like, and practice.
8. Cuddle her
Cuddling may seem innocent, but...
Good cuddles can turn women on, too!
Not sure where to start?
If you're sitting on a couch together, you can put your arm around her, and let her lean into you.
You can also invite her to sit on your lap!
Alternatively, you can ask if she wants to spoon, like if you were in bed together. If she says yes, just lie behind her, with your bodies in full contact like two nested spoons 🥄🥄
If you're already in bed with a woman you're romantically involved with (e.g. you're about to go to sleep), try wrapping your arms her, and spooning her from behind.
Want to ignite things further?
Introduce gentle motion between your bodies.
If it feels good for you, there's a good chance it feels good for her too 😏
Wrap up & next steps
I bet you're curious, because most guys ask me...