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Six Signs She Is Flirting With You

dating psychology signs she... Apr 11, 2022
Woman smiling in flirty way

Ever missed signs a woman was flirting with you?

Maybe you’ve even experienced this painful chain of events:

  1. You see a beautiful girl you naturally gravitate toward ๐Ÿ˜—
  2. Maybe you even chat — she’s not just physically attractive, she’s smart and funny ๐Ÿ˜ฎ
  3. But there’s other people around, or the moment passes, and you didn’t make move ๐Ÿ˜•
  4. You’re filled with regret and “what-ifs” ๐Ÿ˜ฐ
  5. Then, you learn from your friend that the girl was actually into you ๐Ÿ˜ต‍๐Ÿ’ซ

Well, that ends today!

No matter how clumsy you might feel when you’re around a beautiful woman…

Let’s cover the six signs she is flirting with you ๐Ÿฅฐ

This way, you’ll be prepared to make a move!

First, a disclaimer...

โ˜๏ธ None of these signs in isolation guarantees a woman is interested in you romantically.

(It’s possible to flirt without intention to escalate things further, for example!)

The more of these signs you see, though the higher the likelihood she is both flirting and interested ๐Ÿฅฐ




She Looks At You Repeatedly 

Women gazing at man across the room in bar setting

Ever notice a woman glancing at you out of the corner of your eye?

Maybe she even diverts her gaze when she notices you looking back at her ๐Ÿ‘€

Especially if you catch her glancing at you a second or third time…

This is a flirting sign, and usually signals she’s interested!

Body language experts suggest that when people first look at each other:

  1. The first look is often used to establish gender ๐Ÿ‘€
  2. The second look is often used to establish attractiveness ๐Ÿ˜
  3. Further looks are used to create connection via eye contact ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

The same way you may not be able to help but look at a woman you’re attracted to…

If she keeps checking you out, it’s a sign she is trying to flirt.

Go say hello!

You can literally say:

Hey, my name is {NAME}, I thought we made eye contact so I wanted to introduce myself…




She Pays You Compliments 

Did she mention how good that shirt looks on you?

Or maybe she texted something like “you’re really smart, so maybe you can help me with this…”

If so, these compliments are signs she’s flirting!

Particularly if her compliments are related to your appearance, it can be a sign she’s interested in you romantically ๐Ÿ˜

So, don’t brush compliments off!

Roll with them, and continue the conversation.




She Smiles At You

Smiles can be unconscious, or deliberate.

Either way…

If she’s attracted to you, she’ll smile at you ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

Animated gif of woman smiling into the camera

So keep your eyes peeled for a smile, and if you see one, it’s a sign she’s flirting, and you should chat with her.




She Touches You

Does she initiate touch with you?

  • Maybe she always wants to hug when you greet each other ๐Ÿค—
  • Or she puts her hand on your arm or leg when you talk ๐Ÿ‘‹
  • Perhaps she playfully hits you on your shoulder when you tease her ๐Ÿคœ

If she's getting handsy, it's a sign she is flirting with you!

It’s true that some people just use touch as a playful, non-romantic expression... In some cultures it’s very normal to touch people during normal conversation!

So observe her around others as well before concluding she’s into you specifically ๐Ÿ˜‡

Women touching a man's scarf




She’s Clumsy Or Apologetic Around You

If a girl likes you, particularly if she’s shy or less experienced with men, she may be nervous around you.

This can look like:

  • Her being clumsy (e.g. knocking something over, or taking a bad step) ๐Ÿ˜…
  • Her apologizing without real reason (e.g. maybe she says “sorry I’m so flustered” when you meet) ๐Ÿ˜
  • Her babbling or rambling conversationally (most people talk more than they should when they’re nervous) ๐Ÿคญ

These can be signs she’s flirting with you!

She may just feel nervous to tell you she likes you, for the same reason you may hesitate to tell women you like that same thing ๐Ÿ™ƒ

(And if you want help in that department, check out my post on how to tell a girl you like her!) 




She Makes These Non-Verbal Signals

If a woman is into you, she may make any of the following gestures or movements:

  • Her feet point in your direction when you’re talking, particularly if you’re in a group ๐Ÿ‘Ÿ
  • She plays with her hair or bag when she’s around you ๐Ÿ‘œ
  • She licks her lips when you’re talking ๐Ÿ’‹
  • She modulates her voice when you talk, particularly if she makes it softer ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ
  • She looks down and away after you make eye contact โคต๏ธ
  • Her pupils dilate when you talk, because she’s staring at you ๐Ÿ‘€

These can all be signs she’s flirting!

Basically, pay attention to her gestures and expressions, not just the words that come out of her mouth ๐Ÿ™‚




Recap & Next Steps

Ready to make your move the next time a woman is flirting with you?

Here are the six signs to look out for:

  1. She looks at you repeatedly ๐Ÿ‘€
  2. She pays you compliments ๐Ÿคฉ
  3. She smiles at you ๐Ÿ˜ƒ
  4. She touches you ๐Ÿ‘
  5. She’s clumsy or apologetic around you ๐Ÿ˜…
  6. She makes key non-verbal signals ๐Ÿคซ

โš ๏ธ Just remember, none of these signs in isolation means she’s interested in you.

For example, if she touches her hair when she’s around you, it may be because there’s something in her hair!

But if you notice multiple signs clustered together, she's likely flirting with you ๐Ÿ˜

And you should make a move! 

Keep your eyes peeled, good luck, and check out the signs she's developing feelings for you too.



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