There are few things as attractive as confidence.
Not only will being confident make you stand out in a crowd, but it will also help you handle the ups and downs of dating with grace.
If you’re new to the dating game, a seasoned pro, or just coming out of a bad breakup, it’s time to get more confidence.
Let’s look at some top tips for overcoming dating anxiety and boosting your confidence.
Overcoming Dating Anxiety: Confidence-Boosting Tips and Techniques
Look Good = Feel Good
If you look good, you’re going to feel good. Make sure you’re wearing something that looks good and is comfortable.
Trim your beard, shave your face, fix your hair, and trim your nails. Being put together is an easy way to boost your confidence AND make a great first impression.
Before you go on your first date, you need to know what you’re looking for. Having a clear goal in mind will help you focus on the task at hand.
Think about your strengths, interests, and passions. Know what you bring to the table. Then you can focus on the other person and if they fit in with what you want to find.
Focus On if You Like Her, Not the Other Way Around
Instead of fixating on if your date likes you, think about if you like her.
Does she have the important qualities you’re looking for in a partner? Does she make you feel comfortable?
Focusing on whether your date likes you can make you come off as desperate and block your ability to make a real connection.
Be Nice to Yourself
When you look in the mirror, what does your self-talk sound like?
Are they nice things you’d say to a friend? If you wouldn’t say them to your best friend, you shouldn’t say them to yourself.
Remind yourself of your strengths and what makes you awesome.
It’s OK to Be Anxious
Don’t tell yourself negative things about feeling anxious. Anxiety, in this context, isn’t a bad thing.
Being anxious is just showing how important this is to you. Just don’t let your anxiety run the show.
These feelings are normal, just find ways to manage dating anxiety.
What If Everything Goes Right
Going through every worst-case scenario isn’t going to help you.
Instead of focusing on what would happen if everything went wrong, think about what if everything went right.
What if the conversation is sparkling and easy?
Having a positive mindset going into a date can make a big difference in how you feel and act.
Pick Somewhere You Both Feel Comfortable
When planning the date, try and pick a place where you both feel comfortable.
If a dinner date feels overwhelming, try meeting up for coffee or a walk in the park.
Talk to your date about what is comfortable for them. Being in a relaxed, familiar environment can take some of the pressure off you.
Boosting your dating game starts with building confidence.
Confident men are more relaxed and make better connections.
Remember that confidence won’t happen overnight, it takes work and conscious effort.
Every step is important! Following these tips will help you find that confidence is key to dating success.